Blog Post #4

     This whole section of Identity has really got me thinking.  What makes us who we are is what we go through in life.  That is what I believe.  Without our experiences in life, we don't have anything that makes us grow, or think.  Today society has caused women to look at ourselves in a new way.  For many of us, we may think that we aren't good enough to live in this kind of world.  Women are supposed to be this symbol of beauty and grace, but in our modern world, the idea of beautiful is very different from the woman next to us.  We have been brainwashed to think that being a certain size and a certain profession with a certain man living a certain life will bring us happiness.  The only problem with that is the pathways are very small and only a very few devoted women can travel down that path.  Women are so different from each other.  We are different sizes, shapes, colors, and we all lead different lives.  We have different beliefs yet we all live in this world contently.  Why does society make us hate ourselves? It seems the only way we can be happy is if we are put into "A Room of One's Own."  At least there we don't have to compare ourselves to one another and feel awful about ourselves.
     I believe one of the worst things about this subject is people will say that they are happy with who they are and that they wouldn't change anything about who they are because god made them how they were supposed to be and all that jazz, but at one point or another we are going to look in the mirror and say 'I'm not happy with myself.' They have classes that are supposed to teach us how to 'Love ourselves" and am I the only one that thinks that is sad? We should not need classes like that! It is very true that I am beautiful because I am unique and because there is not one single person in the world like me, and there will never be someone like me.  Yet, there is always a moment in time where I may look at myself and wish that I looked like the girl in the magazine who doesn't look like that herself, or I want to look like a Victoria Secret model. But sometimes you have to face reality and realize that I may never be that. And I should be happy being me and be thankful for what I do have and be happy that I am alive and healthy.  Everyone has their insecurities. It's up to us to not let them control our lives.

This video is with two adolescent students who have written slam poetry on the issue of finding their identity and loving who they are for themselves and not for other people.  They talk about how they keep themselves going and not other people.  Great video.